How do I live a joyful life even with this pain?
I was asked this week how I “deal” with my pain. Here’s what I have to say about this…
Because of a previous head injury, I have been experiencing thunderstorms and sledgehammers in my head non stop for over a decade. These types of migraines are so painful that they have been nicknamed the “suicide headaches”, as more people kill themselves from this type of chronic pain than any other. While we’re on this topic, each year more people end their lives because of chronic pain than depression. This is serious kids!
So how do I do it? How do I live a joyful life even with this pain?
Here’s my top 5 things:
“Decrease in pain starts with knowing about pain” – Brainman
All this new brain science is good news! 10 years ago, Drs did not know what they know now about pain science and the nervous system. It was difficult to be hopeful. Now doctors are beginning to understand pain more and more, and the information is readily accessible to all. Being educated about my nervous system and how pain works has contributed to reducing my pain and giving me hope that change is possible.
Tell it to me plain and simple though, my brain already has enough going on in there! Here’s a great little video explaining pain in 5 minutes. Love it!
#2. Daily Awareness Practice
“When we change our daily lives- the way we think, speak and act- we change the world.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
#3. The Great Outdoors.
“I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.” – John Burroughs
Nature is powerful. It just is. You can argue this, but you know it is true. When I feel awful, I go outside and something shifts. If I let myself really take in the surroundings, the smells, the sounds, the colours, the textures, I start to breath deeper and my whole body calms. I suddenly have a sense of the vastness around me and therefore the space around my pain. Make yourself go outside. Go ahead try it out. See what happens.
#4. Connection & Community.
“There is simply no pill that can replace human connection. There is no pharmacy that can fill the need for compassionate interaction with others. There is no panacea. The answer to human suffering is both within us and between us.” Dr. Joanne Cacciatore
Pain is so very isolating. I can go into hermit mode very fast. And sometimes that is needed as a way to recharge. But too much time spent in my hobbit hole is never helpful. Connecting with others produces endorphins that are needed to reduce pain. The more hugs, the less pain. As fearful as I was to volunteer, once I did, I realized how much I needed to feel of service to my community. Connecting with people, being of service, reduces pain. It just does. But do it in a way that you can. Start small. Try little random acts of kindness.
#5. Ridiculousness! A Sense Of Humour.
“It is impossible to overcome passion, aggression, and ignorance with a long face. We have to cheer up. When you begin to see yourself fully and thoroughly, then you discover your sense of humor. It is not the same as telling bad jokes. Humour here is natural joy, the joy of reality.” ~Chogyum Trungpa
Being in pain gets serious real fast. I need to get a good dose of ridiculous each day. Maybe that’s dancing in front of the mirror, or playing pranks with my son, or singing out loud, or just having a playful time with friends. JUST BE RIDICULOUS! I dare you. Be silly for a second, shake out the serious. You can come back to it later. Notice what it would be like to approach your day with that childlike sense of wonder.
That’s it! So basically, learn about your pain as knowledge is powerful. Practice daily, awareness is the key. Go outside, connect with your community, and take a moment to laugh out loud and just be childlike.
“Be Kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” ~ Dalai Lama
Last note: If I was to choose just one thing to practice in my day, it would be kindness. Being kind to myself and others brings with it an authentic sense of Joy. This is the best therapy, and it’s free!
Wishing you all peace and a big dose of kindness!